Cat on my lap

[in_the_blue]

Stones is sitting here curled up on my lap purring. He's just as warm as my laptop, but my laptop doesn't purr.

Ever.

We had dinner last night with my in-laws. Actually, Mitch's cousin was visiting from Maine, so we brought in food and sat around and talked and much to my surprise, it was a very delightful evening. My father-in-law was aware and alert for the most part, which made the whole thing a lot easier than going over on a day when he's just completely out of it. Of course, aware and alert doesn't equal 'sharp;' he did make a few comments about how he used to mix a mean cocktail, but he'd lost his voice and couldn't sing any longer. (I don't think he ever did sing.)

Talked with Mitch's cousin about Molly and her situation, and she sees it pretty much the same way I do. I told her that if she could accomplish in a day's visit what we haven't been able to accomplish in a year and a half -- convincing Molly that she's not up to the chore of taking care of Bob at home -- I'd be forever in her debt. We had her all set in a place where she could have her own apartment and in the same facility Bob could have been in the Assisted Living center with Level 3 care. But then my brother-in-law came to visit and told Molly she didn't want to be in a place like that because it would 'age her prematurely.' Well, guess what? She's 83 or so. She can't age prematurely any more. But since Gerry said bad idea, Molly changed her mind. Because Gerry said so.

That sucks. He should have minded his own business. He has no clue what it's like for her.

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There was a cute little yellow-breasted chat or similar in my Rose of Sharon tree this morning. It was so beautiful. I didn't have a chance to get a better look but it was just sweet.

Huge hugs to cedricsmistress for being Hannah's babysitter all summer. I'm going to miss her sorely when she moves away to go back to college.

And that's it for now, except for the idle musing about whether or not I'm more creative when I get less sleep.

Comments

[shellebelle93.livejournal.com]

Argh! That sucks about your in-law situation.

*hugs* Hope you get sleep.

[chrysantza.livejournal.com]

Is Stones as KEWL a kitty as Cap'n Jack? I just love kitties (as you know, I'm sure) and if I can ever come up to visit, I want to spoil them rotten.

I'm sorry to hear about your inlaw situation. Gerry should have kept his yap shut. :(

[in-the-blue.livejournal.com]

Stones is easily as KEWL as Cap'n Jack. He's one of my special-needs kitties; he's got FIV. He showed up at my door about... oh, 4 or 5 years ago, and it took a year before he ever came inside and by that time I was already in love with him and didn't care if he was sick or not. From all the research I've done on FIV, it's not that easy to pass on, mostly through blood contact. And he's never bitten a soul (at least not any of my other cats). He's a gorgeous Siamese and was neutered when he came here.

The whole business with Gerry was a year ago, and it's all water under the bridge now. Yeah, he should have just shut up and not interfered. But he did, and now Mitch and I get to deal with the end result on a daily basis while Gerry travels all over the country.

La di dah. It's not his problem. So it goes.

[acusa-dora.livejournal.com]

Why is it that people are always willing to give advice when they don't have to do any of the work or worry? I think that situation you describe for Molly would have been perfect. I hope she can be persuaded to do it.

[in-the-blue.livejournal.com]

Yeah, advice is cheap, isn't it? Especially the unsolicited kind.

As I mentioned to Crystal, this was a year ago. The bed is made and now they're lying in it, and it's not a place I want to go if you know what I mean.

And though I like to complain about it because it's annoying when a solution presents itself so clearly to everyone except the people who really need to MAKE the decision, it's really not my business what my mother-in-law decides to do. Until it starts affecting my everyday life... which it will eventually. She's not young enough to be a caregiver for someone who needs full-time nursing care, nor is she mentally or emotionally capable of doing that.

I think a big part of the reason it bothers me so has to do simply with denial of aging for myself.

[perceval.livejournal.com]

that was very helpful of Gerry, especially since he's around from day to day, right?

[blanket-cape.livejournal.com]

Thank you for the hugs! ^_^ I'm going to miss babysitting a lot too. I think if there was a way to just do that forever then I would but sadly that's not possible and a college degree calls. :(

As for worrying about aging...I'm pretty sure you have another 50 years before that will even become an issue.