I think anything that involves more than just your own character in any significant way should actually be considered by 4 people. The two characters, you, and your partner-in-crime. There should be extensive discussions between the puppetmasters, if you will, about how things will shake down, and timeline, and all that jazz. When you know your fellow co-conspirator very well (I've known one of mine for almost a decade, and the other one I talk to on a daily basis), you can tell when the suggestion of a certain story line makes them uncomfortable, or if they suggest one purely as a joke.
Speaking for my character who was actually created as backstory for another character, our current story line really came out of nowhere. What had originally looked like a temporary thing has suddenly become more permanent. This shift was discussed extensively with the other puppet master, and all points are agreed upon before getting written in. Characters can surprise you with they request be written in.
Speaking for my other character, he arrived onstage with a broken heart and many wounds. He fought, kicking and screaming most of the way, the relationship he's currently in. In some respects, he's still struggling against it. In other respects, he wants to rush headlong into things. It's a fine line to walk, keeping both of us on an even keel in terms of a healthy relationship, but we're trying.
In short (or long, rather), I think that if you stay true to the characters, yourself, and your partner-in-crime, it should be ok. Just try not to project yourself, or what you want, onto the characters. (If I'd done that, Neville and Kate would be married by now! :P)
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Speaking for my character who was actually created as backstory for another character, our current story line really came out of nowhere. What had originally looked like a temporary thing has suddenly become more permanent. This shift was discussed extensively with the other puppet master, and all points are agreed upon before getting written in. Characters can surprise you with they request be written in.
Speaking for my other character, he arrived onstage with a broken heart and many wounds. He fought, kicking and screaming most of the way, the relationship he's currently in. In some respects, he's still struggling against it. In other respects, he wants to rush headlong into things. It's a fine line to walk, keeping both of us on an even keel in terms of a healthy relationship, but we're trying.
In short (or long, rather), I think that if you stay true to the characters, yourself, and your partner-in-crime, it should be ok. Just try not to project yourself, or what you want, onto the characters. (If I'd done that, Neville and Kate would be married by now! :P)